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You can find answers Dr. Mike has provided on the web besides here at AskDrMike.org. The links below will help you locate some of these other answers.




iQuestions Video Answers E-mail

iQuestions LogoiQuestions.com is a new website filled with "expert answers you can trust for you, your family and career." Visitors to iQuestions can watch video answers from leading experts and authors on a variety of subjects. Dr. Mike is an iQuestions faculty member for the intimacy section. He answers questions on topics of sexuality, affairs and marriage. Click here or on the image to view video answers from Dr. Mike on the iQuestions site.

 

 

 
Building Church Leaders - Ask The Experts E-mail

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Ask the Experts Discussion: Michael R. Sytsma

What are three things church leaders need to say publicly about sex?

 

In a sex-flooded society, churches have a responsibility to teach a biblical perspective. The three most important messages church leaders need to teach are:

  1. Sex is a wondrous gift from God. While the church has deprecated the physical at various times in history, Scripture celebrates sexuality. God created sexuality as part of the reflection of himself, and he uses it as an example of his passion for his bride—the church. Church leaders can lead the charge in reclaiming God's gift of sex as they create open, honest dialogue about sex that is biblically sound, biologically and relationally accurate, and celebratory in nature.
  2. God has clear boundaries for sex. I regularly work with individuals and couples that have no idea what God's boundaries are for sex. On the one hand, our culture works hard to remove these boundaries. On the other hand, churches often teaches rigid boundaries that are not scriptural. The reality is, just as God established laws to protect the sanctity of worship, God has established sexual laws that sanctify sex. Church leaders need to seek out and understand what God's laws are and teach them regularly.
  3. There is hope and healing for sexual sin. The failure of the church to attack culture's mistruths about sexuality has resulted in a world filled with those who are broken and wounded sexually. Often, the addition of guilt and shame makes this damage even worse in the church as individuals "give up" since they are already defiled. Scripture is filled with redemptive messages for those who have been caught up in sexual sin. 

 

 
Real Sex Column in Marriage Partnership E-mail

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Dr. Mike and his colleague Debra Taylor are the columnists for Marriage Partnership's Real Sex column. Dr. Mike and Debra answer 2-3 questions from readers in each issue. We have the columns printed under the Resources section of the IntimateMarriage.org website or you can jump to the Marriage Partnership website by clicking the picture on the right.

Read the Real Sex column here.

 

 
Shaunti Feldhahn's Hot Topics E-mail

Shaunti's WebsiteWe often recommend Shaunti Feldhahn's books in our counseling so it was an honor when Dr. Mike recently had the opportunity to work with one of Shaunti writers in answering some "hot topic" questions the readers of her books were asking. That writer was none other than Jackie Feit - Building Intimate Marriages own counseling intern for 2007-2008. Click through the answers on Shaunti.com to see Jackie's answers.